Our Work

Our Practice

Our root practice is Circling, an emerging form of meditation that unites contemplative inquiry with relational expression.


It is a potent form of interpersonal meditation. A powerful addition to other contemplative disciplines, which classically consist in personal introspection of some kind, Circling is co-explorative and relational. Participants observe the moment-by-moment quality of connection as it unfolds between them. A facilitator guides the process to assure that relational presence is continuously returned to as the primary object of focus, just as breath, mantra, visualization, or a koan might in other styles of contemplative inquiry. The facilitators participate in the Circle too, revealing and expressing themselves, where relevant, in service of deepening shared relational presence. Circling lifts the inward-turned gaze of meditation toward the vivid reality of other beings.

What is


A relational, in-the-moment, presence-based group conversation and meditation with intent for “shared reality”.

Circling is a form of meditation. As such, it involves bringing attention to what is arising in the present moment, welcoming everything – even resistance to what is arising – without trying to change it.

It is also relational. Therefore, what we attend most closely to – rather than the breath or a mantra – is the experience of being with, the quality of the relationship, the feeling-flavor of the moment in connection. (Or disconnection – what’s that like? Noticing.) 

Our Practice

What are

Authentic Relating Games?

Authentic Relating Games are a collection of extensively tested, masterfully led experiences that give players a hands-on taste of both the joy and skills of interpersonal connection. 

Authentic relating uses exercises, or games, to teach and facilitate the skills, like curiosity and empathy, necessary to quickly create deep, meaningful human connection. In a period when loneliness is increasing, as our avenues for connecting expand, practitioners tell me they are drawn to a community that makes conversing and relating with one another an intentional activity—one with guidelines and structure designed to elicit intimacy. 

We challenge you to listen and reflect in realtime, to share your emotional state, to notice and reach into your desire, and to become self-aware within connection. From meditative depths of presence and ecstatic heights of joy, to somber melancholy and heart-pounding fun, we guide an experience all the way through the human condition.

Our Practice

Our Story

The Connection Institute was founded 2016 by Peter Benjamin and began as a small group of facilitators running public events on relational intelligence a few times a week in Somerville, MA.

Week after week, the community grew with more and more people that wanted to step into a deeper, more real way of relating. As we grew and spread our reach with intensives and trainings across the United States, we found that more people were hungry for this kind of work and access to each other than we could serve.

In the summer of 2017, we regrouped and refocused our vision so we could better serve our community and have an authentic way of showing up with others reach beyond our immediate community.

Currently, we are expanding our reach through:

  • Writing Books

  • Providing multi-month Immersive training

  • Offering weekend long immersive trainings

  • Trainings across the country

  • Created a game (Divi Circling)

  • Online trainings


"We filled these events in my living room on couches, cushions and floor jacks with several young, vibrant millennials tired of impersonal online dating culture and boring networking events."

-Peter (left)

Our Mission:

Our mission is to help the world develop social, emotional, and relational skills to cultivate a more connection and intimacy.

We do this through training facilitators, peer counselors, and leaders to have strong relational skills and responsible use of power that comes with these skills. 

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